不浪漫的男生

前一陣子和一位男生朋友S在MSN上聊天, S在感情空窗兩年之後, 最近新交了一個女朋友. 但女生時常抱怨他不夠浪漫, 讓他感到很氣餒.

以下的對話是我跟他分享我的想法:

α… says:
I think for us girls, we tend to watch those romantic movies or read those romantic novels or hear stories about how other girls’ boyfriends treat them nicely

α… says:
So us girls have the tendency to set a high standards of our boyfriends according to those stories we heard, thinking our boyfriends should treat us the same way.

α… says:
but in reality, not every guy is going to be like the movie stars, we just have to learn it and accept the facts.

α… says:
on the other hand, for guys, I don’t think it hurts to be more creative, pay more attention or pay more thoughts to “spice” things up to maintain the relationship.

α… says:
after all, a relationship won’t work if you just let it sit there and die without doing any work!

S… says:
good thinking…makes sense…..you convinced me

α… says:
haa today is the first time I expressed my thoughts in words….never knew I could make this much sense….hahahaha

S… says:
I think you should earn a relationship PhD or something…. I guess it’s easier to have good ideas now than before, since now we have seen more of the reality and relationship to make a more realistic relationship.


說實在的, 我到現在以來, 也很少交到浪漫的男友. 大部分的男生裡面十個有九個不浪漫, 剩下那一個浪漫的男生做了什麼很貼心的事情就會被我們女生大為宣傳, 讓其他女生感到既羨慕又忌妒.

可是, 老實說, 浪漫又有什麼用? 能夠拿來吃嗎? 對那些感情有高標準, 夢想著白馬王子早日出現的女生, 最好還是實際一點. 現實生活中能夠當白馬王子的男生不多, 就算有,可能也早就被定下來了. 現今社會中能夠找到一個真心對你好, 懂得照顧你, 愛你疼你的男生才是最重要的.

話說回來, 要能夠維持一段美好的戀情, 男生們也需要多花點心思在經營感情上. 我們女生不一定是要每天出去吃高級餐廳, 拿到名牌禮物, 偶爾給點surprise, 或一點貼心的舉動或話語, 讓女生知道你還是愛她的, 就夠了.

老實說, 我從前也是那種愛作白日夢, 幻想著身邊有個白馬王子出現的小女生, 但是慢慢長大, 經歷了一些事情之後, 開始明白現實生活與夢想還是有一段差距的. 現在的我要求不多, 只希望身邊有個真正懂我愛我的人在旁邊, 就足夠了.

One thought on “不浪漫的男生

  1. 有同感,不過我男友也不是會製造驚喜的,因為通常都是一起討論,這方面他就
    比較弱
    啦,有時滿喜歡那種驚喜的感覺,可惜他就是學不會,我想浪漫也是要有天分的
    ~~~

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *